Maddy: Life of a Beach Bum & Bikini Babe Wannabe!

Relationships..are they meant to be long lasting or for a short term? Friends around me are getting hitched and i am receiving invitations lots, particuarly true for this second half of the year..3 of my best uni frens are gettin hitched later this year and i will be attending one very shortly in 2 weeks’ time..But i also have frens around me whom are breaking up with their other half after many many years together…

So wat are relationships? Are they meant to be long lasting where you get married and live happily ever after? Well, even if its not happily ever after, it will be forever..till death do us apart..But is it even true these days? I heard of stories where things just dint work out after like 5 or 10 years and then the couple just break from each other..its kinda heart-breaking to hear such news since it meant that a whole of 5 or 10 years have been wasted for both parties..I guess its pretty okay for the male species since they always said that men are always the most charming when they are in their thirties and a career going on for them..How abt women? when they reach 30, peeps will say that they have already passed the “expiry date” and very soon, they will be left on the shelf..Is that even true for women these days? I guess not as most women will think so..Who needs men these days while women are gettin to be more independent and mind of their own..But anyways, its kinda sad to hear that things dont work out..and this is especially worse if the relationships have been dragged forever and both parties decided to end it only like 10 years lateR? To me, i find that it is better to end it early than to let it dragged forerver and then 10 years have passed and you realize that “Hey she/he is not the one for me! So time for me to move on to someone new..”

Secondly, same as a crush..how do you keep that person interested in you forever and ever..and that day of breaking up after 10 years will neva come? Thats a bit tough..How do you keep the flame burning…How do you keep the passion between both of you growing stronger and stronger..How do you find things to do to keep the relationship interesting? Is there an answer to all these? Staying long together as a dating couple might be good since peeps always say that it will make both parties understand each other better..but understanding each other too much..would that help in the marriage? Aint that part supposed to be discovered after marriage or while dating? *ponders*

Knowing a little is good but knowing too much might be excessive for the relationship..Certain parts are just meant to be known after marriage..Now i know why the folks outta there are taking such a different view, opinion and perspective twds relationships..probably to them these days, commitments are just secondary..what is important is how you feel at that exact moment which defines everything…

I remember once asking one of my colleagues who got married at a tender age..”How do you know you are ready for marriage?” “Hmm..well, you just sorta know it..the time comes when you are so in love with each other and know that you would want to take the next step with him..” She said..At that time, i was pondering to myself..oh so that is when you know you are ready for marriage..but wat happened if you have already passed that phrase? Does that spell trouble for your relationship? Hah! I guess it does..

So once again, the brooding question is “How do you keep the person interested in you forever and ever?” or rather..”How do you keep the relationship going on..”

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